My Truth, Authentic Self, and Asmita…

It’s taken me a while to understand what Asmita means. Textually it means false identification but how does it work for us? How does our truth, our authentic self, our Asmita serve us?

In the modern yoga era we all live in it’s easy to get pushed and pulled into this world of expensive yoga clothes, pretty mala beads, and quirky tattoos. We see the girl on the front of the class with her perfectly tattered flowing tank top and Lululemon boogie shorts bending and breathing effortlessly. We see this picture of perfect yoga and try to duplicate it. But how is this making us better in our yoga? In our lives?

I’ve been there. Buying those funky printed pants and researching different types of mala beads and their meaning. Oh the feeling of being the essence of marketed yoga! But this doesn’t serve who I am, my truth, my practice. You bet I love a new pair of yoga pants and tank top, but I needed to realize dripping in OM gear wasn’t my authentic self.

I’m still driving down a three lane highway, not sure where my authentic self ends but I’m on the right track. Finding your true practice on and off the mat is important. It’s an incredible and intimate journey.

Congratulations to those who know their truth and good luck to those still searching.

A New Life Lesson This Birthday

Today I celebrate my 26th birthday and I’m filled with immense love, gratitude, and happiness. But I’m also feeling a bit blue. Before you begin any eye rolling or sighs it’s not because I’m getting “old” or that no one got me a birthday gift. I realized that I’m at the pivotal moment of my years where friends start parting ways.

I was fortunate enough to spend time with friends and family last weekend, cheers-ing beers and playing yard games. At the end of the night as I laid in bed I started to cry. I shouldn’t feel sad because I had a fantastic evening with the company around me. But I became aware that this is the time when my friends are going to begin their post adolescent life, get married, start a family, move away, have priorities etc. I know that after college real life will rear it’s ugly head but I held on to the fact that Best Friends Forever do exist! As a child I couldn’t wait until I was older, now I wish to stop time and enjoy what little moments of irresponsibility and close knit friendships I have.

I will not be sad today or hold onto the “could be’s” and “if only’s,” but I will acknowledge all the life lessons and personal growth I have achieved during my 25th year of age. I’m so happy to have those who are in my life, who support and love me. And I am also happy for those whom I don’t speak with as often and will continue to move further apart.

Last year I made a promise to change my life, to create my own happiness. This year I want to open my heart to all possibilities and make peace with uncontrollable change.

Setting Goals

accomplishment is trying

I am a huge advocate of goal setting. They keep our accountability in check, motivation up, and focus in line. I’ve always found that setting a goal for myself makes me happy because I can accomplish what I find unattainable in that moment. Goals can be anything. Something you want to do that day or finish in a few months. Whatever your goal is keep it up and also form new ones after you’ve obtained success. If you fail try again. No one said it was going to be easy, but it will definitely be worth it.

I encourage everyone to find some inspiration in their life and set a goal. Maybe walk during your lunch break at work. Opt to cook rather than order take out. Read one chapter a night of the book you ordered 4 months ago. Whatever it is go for it! Create the time to work at it. No goal is ever to small.

A few ways to help can be to write your progress in a journal, make an inspiration board with magazines/quotes/pictures, reward yourself with something specific once you’ve reached your goal, ask your friends or family to help keep you accountable.

Good luck! Know that you are an amazing person and can achieve what you put your mind to!

Let Go Of What We Think Is Perfection

HowThis morning in practice my amazing instructor focused on letting our body and movement guide our flow. Let go of what we are supposed to look like or how each pose is supposed to be. It’s okay to shake, it’s okay to fall out of stability. Building and pushing ourselves to our edge only makes us grow. I usually think too analytically when I focus on something to work on as opposed to letting my body feel it out. It ends up making me over compensate, wobble or holding on too long to my breath.

It’s funny how our practice can translate to outside of our mat. I have a very busy weekend, full of fun events and lovely people. I should be excited and I am, but I think about the where, how, when of my days. As I sit here though, I thought about how to make today and myself better. How can I be the best me I can be? I’ve decided it’s to stay present and let the day flow. Stop focusing on the next thing in my schedule and just enjoy what’s happening now. My days aren’t perfect, nor will they ever be.

I hope everyone has a fantastic end of February and enjoy today for what it is!

Daily Mantra: Today Is For Me

“This time is for you and only you,” says my yoga teacher with sincerity and love. “Nobody or nothing else matters. Leave whatever it is you are worried, scared or sad about outside this room.”

If it were only that easy.

I never thought that I would feel trapped or run down with the various relationships in my life. Pleasing people or making them feel good has never felt like a chore. I relish in the sense of satisfaction when I can makes someone’s day or help them through a tough time. But there comes a time when you can’t be taken advantage of or feel guilty because you weren’t able to make that coffee date.

I rarely ever break down. I always try and stay strong, keep my composure. Last night was a different story. I was to simply put, exhausted. Tired of trying to be a friend with a shoulder to cry on, tired of fulfilling the role of the perfect girlfriend, tired of appeasing the people I’m closest with because I want them to be happy. What about me? I just want a moment of silence. A moment where I don’t have to play therapist, mom, friend, anything.

I’ve made a lot of changes in my life the last year and am loving who I have become and who I might grow into. Life is always in progress. I mustn’t forget the independence I love. Oh the silence of a good book and tea, I can feel the crisps pages and silence sparkling through my body just thinking about it.

We need to remind ourselves that it’s ok to be selfish and do things for ourselves when we need it. It  helps recharge our mind, body and soul. Take time and listen to our thoughts and feelings. If we feel agitated and frustrated when we normally wouldn’t, take a step back and figure out what it is that’s missing.

Let’s all treat ourselves today. Turn our phones off. Book that massage. Take a nap. Do and love what it is that relinquishes the anger and unhappiness from our thoughts. It’s okay to think of yourself today. It’s okay to think of yourself everyday.

Repeat this as often as you need, “Today is for me.”

The Area Between Child and Adult. Where Is My Path?

Adulthood thus far… A story of a twenty something chick who is mindful yogi, dedicated employee, caring friend and family member … but also a not so put together gal looking for light. If I could just get my sh*t  on track I’d stop feeling guilty when acquaintances ask me, “What are you up to these days?” My answer? “Oh just working full time and living in the city.” What I really want to divulge is, “I live each f$cking day hoping something extraordinary will take me away traveling again or that I can earn a comfortable living by teaching Yoga 10 classes a week.” This honesty makes for an awkward conversation… Trust me.

Is anyone else tired of feeling lost or consider themselves a late bloomer in the career world? I can not tell you how many times I’ve chit chatted with my parents that were NOT helpful in the slightest when it came to figuring our where I belong in this economic society. Can we not just get paid for who we are and what we offer to the world as people? No? Too naïve? Yeah… I need some adult-ing to do.

Going to school I felt pressured to find a focus, find a major, start work early. I’m over it and I  haven’t even reached a halfway point in my working longevity. LET’S JUST TURN DOWN THIS PRESSURE COOKER OF EMPLOYMENT PLEASE!

Don’t get me wrong, I have goals. I have hopes. I have dreams. I’m not saying I don’t value the system of hard work to step up the ladder. But I think I’m on the wrong ladder. Or at least a different ladder from everyone else. Mine is in the bushes climbing up a tree to over see the views when it seems everyone else is scaling a sky scrapper. Good for them who enjoy the corporate world, but I just feel a wee bit out of place.

I’m no stranger to the “Get up and live your dream!” attitude and manifestation. I try and execute it every day but taking advantage of experiences and feelings. When it comes to my job though, I can’t quite give up the guilt of leaving my office, my paycheck and my worry-free grocer shopping. I can afford organic this way!

I have plenty of faith that I will get to where I want to be one day when it comes to making a living. I have learned an abundance about myself and what I can’t control by having my current job in which I wouldn’t have figured out otherwise.  I repeat my daily mantra: Patience. I manifest that I will one day have the career or non-career that I’ve always wanted that will allow me to utilize my creativity, love and light. If you’re like me who has so much desire and hope for themselves but has NO IDEA what they’re doing, hold on and never let go of what makes you passionate in life. Practice patience and more patience. Let your life happen when you and it are ready.

Compassion With The Unworthy

Since practicing yoga, I’ve acknowledged and incorporated several of the concepts to my daily living. I’ve taken focus in my Yamas and Niyamas and integrated them to settle myself into a more emotional sacred space.  I feel more control, more content, and more happy now that I’ve surrounded my mindfulness and actions through the 8 limbs of yoga. But what about the things I can’t control?

I’ve recently come across a situation where I was hurt by someone else’s actions. It would be easy to brush it under the rug, have the brute mentality of pretending not to care but where would that get me? What do we do when someone whom we thought was a friend, lover, or family member does something that hurts us? No matter the size of the issue, our emotions are validated. We are effected and it’s OK  to feel upset.

The question now is, “How should we handle the issue?” We can’t expect someone to be enlightened by our forth coming honesty of feelings or that they will welcome us in open arms with an apology. But we can’t silence the fire that’s inside us because we think they might say we are being over sensitive and make us feel ashamed.  When someone has a smaller dose of compassion than others, it’s difficult to try and speak with them about our vulnerabilities. We assume our feelings will be tomorrows garbage.

What I have learned and experienced with this particular situation is even though people can’t understand or show lack of compassion, that doesn’t mean they don’t deserve it. We all have qualities that we feel need a little TLC. Normally when someone lashes out or has an issue with a particular action, it’s a projection of their own insecurities. Be kind, show them love and support. Our actions don’t need to define who we are and our reactions can bring light into a dark space.

Take the day to show compassion to someone who needs it.

 

The Lotus Flower Blooms In Merky Water

I let myself live through the motions of life, much like a fallen leaf in the wind. Wherever the outside world took me, I went. Looking back on it now, I wasn’t living. I was existing in this place where I expected someone else to make me happy, finding comfort in an unhealthy pattern, and comparing myself to other people’s failures for validation. What a dark, dark world to be in.

I enjoy writing in a journal because I prefer to verbally vomit all my vulnerabilities onto paper rather than speaking to a human for several reasons. I don’t feel judged, I can be honest without the fear of rejection or punishment, and I like to be able to look back on past thoughts. Yesterday was the 1 year anniversary of my current journal and what an amazing transformation. I’m incredibly proud for taking control of my life and creating my own happiness. I didn’t allow obstacles to define any short comings in my journey, I took them as a learning curve and experiences to grow from. I had several things that I wrote in entry number 1 of things that I wanted to be better about my life. I didn’t admit to myself that the outside variables I wanted to improve upon were up to me to change. I had hopes, I had wishes, I complained about things that I wanted to be different.

After a handful of entries I began to see the transformation. I took steps toward self-improvement which, number 1, was changing my location. Moving out to the big city and embracing a new environment. Next change was lifestyle. I’ve always been an active person but I grew into a slump. I started working out regularly which then gave me more motivation to educate myself on my health and happiness. Once I noticed a physical change in my body, I engrossed myself in articles to help me improve my mental state. I have to live with me until the day I die and I knew I had to love who I am and that life is always in progress.

I’ve created my own happiness and it’s completely turned my world around. I feel the difference every day. I have a lot less angst, I don’t harbor silly emotions that I needn’t to be bothered with, and I’ve become a lot more positive person. It’s truly an incredible feeling to read the beginning of my journal and see how far I’ve come and to say, “I did this.” All my hard work I put forth for 6 or so months was worth it. It’s not over and it’s an on going process to keep up the life I want but I’m in it for the long haul.

The lotus flower has truly bloomed in the merky water.

 

In Sickness and In Health

While enjoying the changing of the leaves and breathing in the brisk fall air, a germ squeaked it’s way into my body and I was left with the seasonal cold. I took good care of myself all week. I slept as much as I could, drank my fluids, and let my body recover. It’s been a full week since I was in the yoga studio and I felt excited to begin my practice. I knew I wouldn’t be able to flow at my normal pace so I sucked up my pride and listened to my body. I found child’s pose when in need and went to my edge when comfortable.

Recovery is a humbling thing. Taking time away from my mat to get healthy (and not infect others) was a struggle. Even though I had to pull myself together for work, I knew I couldn’t go to class and in my mind I wasn’t whole. My mindfulness with daily rituals weren’t as fulfilling or as glorious. Yoga makes me happy and I’m so grateful that I have brought it into my life, but when I had a cold and wasn’t able to power through a vinyasa I felt like my light was dim. Then I realized I wasn’t bringing my practice off the mat.

In sickness and in health, yoga is a  constant reminder of the person I choose to be, what brings passion into my life, and that it’s on going process. Just because I can’t attend my studio for the physical part doesn’t mean I can’t embrace what I’ve learned for my everyday. I never thought I’d learn something from catching a cold… Not to say that I want to be sick again but my yoga practice never ceases to amaze me on the value it brings in my life.

20 Ways To Be Inspiring

On any given day, we look to certain people or places for inspiration. We gather all the ubiquitous quotes or sing songs that speak to our hearts. Have you ever wondered how those quotes and songs were written. Or certain people who are just living their life, the mere essence that they permeate around them can be intoxicatingly influential. We are envious and ask ourselves, “how do we be like them?” I would hope you never compare yourself to anyone but for those of you who are seeking to be inspirational or positively infectious, here are a few things that you can integrate into your daily activities.

1. SMILE. Not only does it show optimism but it gives people the warm and fuzzys. Even to strangers walking on the street. They could be having a terrible day or a mediocre one, you could brighten a moment with those pearly whites.

2. Listen to others. This one is hard for some people because it’s easy to get excited and interject when you have something to add to the conversation. If you wait for someone to finish speaking whether in a group or solo session, they will feel appreciated and heard which may inspire them to do the same for someone else.

3. Be kind to someone. It’s easy to do something nice for someone you love but have you thought about extending a helping hand to someone that really needs it? This can be difficult as most of us expect something in return, even if it’s just a thank you. But do a random act of kindness to an individual and don’t expect anything in return.

4. Open a door for a stranger. Chivalry is not lost and doing something as small as holding the door of an elevator can remind people of this.

5. Exude confidence. To the women who are bold and own who they are and what they do, you are inspiring. Embrace confidence in yourself by acceptance and love in your mind, body and soul because it truly shows.

6. Be and do what makes you happy. Happiness is extremely overlooked. People depend on someone or something to make them happy, but it can be lost after a moment. Figure out what in life brings you pure and honest joy. This could be an activity, hobby, or employment. Whatever it is, search for it high and low and you’ll always find pleasure in your life. And what better way to be inspiring than creating your own happiness?

7. LAUGH. Laughter is infectious. Once you find humor in something it’s hard for your surroundings to not to be integrated in the hilarity of the moment. Laughter is a great reminder of happiness and makes people just feel GOOD.

8. Try something new. Get out there and do something you’ve always wanted to do or never thought you could do! Showing your adventurous side can give those who were to scared to do so a small nudge of motivation to do the same.

9. Be vulnerable. It’s scary, it’s heartbreaking, it’s a million emotions to be vulnerable which is why a lot of people tend not to do it. However opening up and expressing feelings that are so close to your heart is inspirational and radiates strength in who you are.

10. Stand up for what you believe in. This is a pretty common way to inspire people. To try and make a difference by voicing your opinion and beliefs takes courage. People tend to shy away from controversy or don’t think they alone can be influential.

11. Take charge of your life. We all get lost at one point or another and some of us never find our way back to center. Realizing you need help or want to make a change is incredibly inspiring as so many of us can get stuck and not find the motivation to get out. Taking the necessary steps to get your life back into control is uplifting and a great example to those who want to do the same.

12. Be genuine. There is only one you in the world and you are unique. Don’t conform to society  just to feel accepted. You aren’t being truthful to yourself or the world.

13. Fall in and out of love and then back again. Heartbreak is given a bad connotation because well, it means your heart is broken. It’s sadness, it’s loneliness, it’s unrelenting hopelessness that you wonder if you’ll ever find love again. But from heartbreak comes knowledge and growth. You’ve learned to love and you felt the most amazing emotion us humans can experience. To be able to open your heart and let love in again, even though your heart has been broken, is something to cherish and makes love only that much more tender. To see someone in love again is inspiring.

14. Gratitude. Knowing what you have been given in life and being grateful for every moment. Being grateful can be seen through your actions and motivates people to look at themselves and be thankful as well.

15. Passion. When someone sees that you are putting in hard work and devotion to something, it shows your passion. Passion that can be seen motivates others to find their passion in life or to work harder in what they love.

16. Have no regrets. This one is difficult because how do you know if you’ll regret doing something before you do it? It’s not so much that you make the right decisions but accepting that life happens and mistakes are made. We can all wish we had done something different but what will that accomplish?

17. Live in the present. Take advantage of the now. We miss out on so much when we think of the past or worry about the future. People who remain in the present embrace life for what it is and seize the moment.

18. Apologize or accept an apology. Whether you were in the wrong or were wrongly scorned, just let it go. By acknowledging you were in the wrong or listening to someone admit their faults, apologies are a form of closure and conscious effort to validate someone’s feelings. Many people put their pride in front of a grudge and by not allowing this to happen is inspirational.

19. Bar no judgments. Acceptance is a beautiful thing and society can be so quick to judge their environment. Keep and open mind and be kind, this can lead to so many wonderful ways of life.

20.  Challenge yourself. We can all get comfortable which can lead to physical and emotional instability. If we lived every day as if it’s a new one and that anything is possible, people would feel so much more accomplished. How motivating would it be to see someone creating a new goal every day? How inspiring would you feel if your friend told you a story about how he/she was a go getter. Allow yourself to feel challenged in different situations. You’ll acquire so much more of life than letting yourself sit on a plateau.

Being inspirational doesn’t mean you have to be on the New York Time’s Best Seller’s list or have a TV Show on Day Time television. As flat out ridiculously awesome as that would be, simple things that improve your well being and happiness is what’s going to inspire people. I encourage everyone to be inspiring today in your own way or with the tips above, you choose. Believe in yourself. That’s inspiration you can count on.